Many of us experience periodic bouts of low self-confidence that can temporarily impair self-esteem. Here are some simple steps to ease some of the negative feelings and help us regain our sense of self-worth.
1. Do an honest and comprehensive strengths and weakness assessment
Instead of focusing on the weakness list (which people with lack of confidence tend to do) focus on core strengths and resolve to find ways to utilize them in your every day life and interactions. Playing to your Strengths Ask trusted friends and family members for feedback on what they value most about you, or how they see you. For many insecure people there is an enormous discrepancy between their self image and the view of significant others.
2. Assessing Expectations is Next
Are our expectations of self reasonable? In this age of role-strain, multi-tasking and constant digital demands it is important to review the expectations that govern our everyday lives and set performance goals. Are they realistic? One solution is to prioritize core expectations and outsource or dump the less critical. We are mere mortals.
3. Let go of obsessing about the “why” and over-analysis.
“Fake it till you make it” is the mantra of many successful people. If you are “afraid of success’ and crippled in moving up a ladder you might have to “just do it.”
4. Crush the rear view mirror.
Highly successful people do not spend much time looking back and being overly self-critical. Moving forward and towards goals is a better way to harness your energy. Being positive is contagious.
5. Work on the projection of a more positive self image by working on your posture,wardrobe, voice, and overall presentation of self.
6. (This might seem to contradict number 5. It doesn’t) .Worry more about connection than how you appear to others.
We usually do our best when we shift our consciousness from self to that of others. Whether giving a presentation, interacting at a dinner party or talking with a client it is best to strive for connection. The rewards are great.
7. Exercise and care for self.
Emulate habits of more confident people. If you can’t invest in yourself why should anyone else? You are worthy.
8. Forgiveness is cleansing.
Forgive parents and other relatives, friends, bosses, colleagues, and acquaintances who have hurt you. Holding on damages us more than the targets of of our resentment and anger.
9. Practice, rehearse. Study others who are confident.
10.Visualize positive outcomes.